When you put yourself out in the world, do you find yourself holding back your truth?
Whether you’re dating someone new, in a relationship, or just in your day-to-day interactions with people…do you feel like if you show the world the real you, there’s going to be a price to pay?
You may find that in some aspects of your life you are fully expressed – say in your business, or as a parent – but in intimate relationships you find yourself dimming your light, dumbing yourself down, or just afraid to be YOU…
And you don’t really know why…
Well, welcome to being a human being!
We are wired for self-preservation so that we don’t get hurt.
It’s why we sensor who and what we truly are in the name of safety.
But, how’s that workin’ for ya?
If your strategy is to hold yourself back and not fully express yourself because you don’t want to deal with conflict, or you’re scared of looking a certain way, then you might find yourself stuck dating the wrong person for way too long.
If you aren’t revealing your true self, then the relationships you call in will probably not be as healthy or authentic or as juicy as they could and should be.
How many times have you met someone and in the honeymoon period of the relationship thought, “Wow, this is going great!” but sure enough…things you didn’t expect start to pop up and Prince Charming is suddenly revealing some hidden warts?
We all have things about ourselves that we’re afraid to bring out into the light, but let me tell you…if you are dimming your light for the sake of keeping the peace or to stay safe, the price you pay will be high!
That price is the lack of authentic connection. The inability to connect fully and richly with your person.
AND it takes a toll on you when you stuff down YOU! It’s exhausting and painful not to be truly seen.
If you hold too much back…and down the line, you start to open up and shine your truth, it’s hard to know how that person will react.
This month is the month of love. I invite you to lean in and think about what kinds of things you would like to reveal that are authentically you.
Intimacy (In-to-me-see) is the key to a deep, lasting partnership. And, you gotta bring your truth and vulnerable self to the table to experience it.
I invite you to drop the mask and radiate your true, beautiful essence!
It’s going to feel so good to finally just be YOU!
Think of one way you can come out of your shell and share a little bit more about who you are.
When you get out of your own way, guess what?
YOU’RE FREE!!!
AND you will attract a very different kind of partner and love yourself on the journey.
Love,
Junie xoxo
